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• Dated: 13-05-2010

Kolkata

Domestic violence is a bane on society. Often this problem is acute among the poor where poverty and squalor drives men to drink, consume drugs and beat their wives.
 
No doubt grass root women’s movement, especially in the North –East are against Alcohol and drugs.
 
However feminist have been using the problem of Domestic Violence to advance their goals, which are overtly and covertly against men and family.
 
A law on domestic violence was passed at the behest of Mrs Sonia Gandhi to address the problem. However the law is totally biased towards women and offers no protection to men.
 
However a little research will show that men are as much victims of domestic violence as are women.
 
According to Michael Burlingame, a history professor at

Apparently, one time,

amartya.talukdar@gmail.com

Read this artical from hindustan times.

Woman pesters her own parents for dowry, rebuked

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It was a excellent experince, D.S.Rao from kolkata hosted the local chapter lanch areound 6 member of women and 15 member of men are partcepated and made the even successfull of this organisation. local media had published the news in the local channel & uttarbanga pubilshed news with photos.

http://charmandrigor.com/clips/details-raping.html

Read this artical  http://www.nriinternet.com/NRI_sex_cases/USA/A_Z/S/Lina_Sinah/index.htm

http://www.merinews.com/article/both-men-and-women-oppose-womens-reservation-bill/15799830.shtml

 Dear Friends,
 
  The 3rd National Convention on Judicial Accountability & Reforms, on 6th
  and 7th February held at

and Library, Teen Murti
  House,

was a good success.
 
  We must all thank Mr Prashant Bhusan, the Convenor of the Campaign to take
  up this important issue and inviting all of us to put in our views.
 
  It was attended by stalwarts like Shanti Bhushan, Arun Jaitley, A B
  Bardhan, Retd Chief CJI Verma, Arvind Kejriwal, S C Agarwal, Commdr Lokesh
  Batra, Madhu Kishwar, Tulsi amongst numerous others. Small captions with
  photos and description of everyone, including our members, would be posted
  soon.
 
  Almost everybody agreed, cutting across political lines, that the Judiciary
  has decayed, is horribly corrupt and needs immediate reforms both in terms
  of their appointment and removal. A detailed resolution was drawn up after
  the 2 days meet and can be found at http://www.judicialreforms.org/
 
  The real good part of the seminar is that we found that almost all of the
  attendees coming from different parts of

, have heard the name of Save
  Indian Family Movement. In fact Madhu Kishwar ji described our movement to
  the forum, as a phenomenal success within a short period of time.
 
  Mr Prashant Bhushan the Convenor of the Campaign was rather getting afraid
  that the campaign for Judicial Accountability would automatically get
  transformed into Family/Mens Rights Movement by the Save Indian Family
  Movement (SIF) members, which even we don't want. And it would be hurricarri
  for the Convenors of the Campaign to keep anything in the resolution like
  Family/Mens Rights issue, which would make it a politically incorrect one
  for them too.
 
  However, we the members of SIF, whether anybody likes it or not, are
  incidentally or accidentally, the biggest stakeholders of this Judicial
  Accounatability Campaign. And no points for guessing why it is so. Yes, it
  is due to the sheer volume and massive misuse of 498a, with more than 70000
  false cases being filed every year. Some of the stalwarts in the Seminar,
  even from outside SIF, described it aptly as the "Felt Need".
 
  We all know that on 7th of November, 2009, Moily our Law Minister presented
  the report on National Mission for Delivery of Justice and Legal Reforms
  identifying the types of cases which are actually clogging up the Judicial
  system. Matrimonial Cases and False 498a cases were ranked obviously 1st and
  2nd in the list. And in any democracy/movement, it is the group with the
  highest numbers, which matters. So it is quite obvious with SIF members
  would come from such far flung places such as

, Channai and
  

, spending money from their own pockets just to attend the seminar
  on Judicial Accountability, as that is the only obvious thing, which would
  make sense. And yes, we are the groups which are affected the most by the
  Judiciary. And our numbers of people fighting cases in the Court are much
  more than the Tribals of Chattisgarh, who are also facing apathy from the
  very same Judiciary.
 
  Now how to take forward the Campaign for Judicial Accountability & Reform.
 
  We obviously have our own agenda. And so do the members of the Campaign
  have. However we do have a common enemy, the Judiciary. So we can join hands
  on issues of common interest and conduct Press Conferences on Judicial
  Accountability, throughout

. We have already established some good
  contacts with some stalwarts during the Seminar. And yes, we now have
  chapters in almost all the State Capitals, and do have strength and friends
  in the Media to conduct successful Press conferences on the Judicial
  Accountability issue. Mr Prashant Bhusan has agreed to join such Press
  Conferences which has a common agenda on Judicial Accountability & Reform.
 
  I would request our other members to chip in their valuable comments and
  views on the seminar.
 
  Niladri

DATE OF ARTICLE; 30-01-2010

PLEASE FIND THE LINK http://hridaya-nfh.org/NEWS_FILES/ekdin_30.jpg

It may be helpful to consider the dangers posed by raising wave of feminism in this country.

The feminist leaders are anti-God, anti-capitalism, anti-family, anti-birth, anti-heterosexual and foster a virulent hatred of anything having to do with males.

The preeminent purpose for some women have become their careers, and they decided against the value of home and family.

The Impact of Feminnism and womens’ liberation movement  in west has been that:-

Women were liberated from :-

·  the home,

·  from their husbands,

·  from their children –

·  from having to bear children at all.

Fathers were liberated from their authority.

Children were liberated from limits, from rules, even their parents.

And the entire population was liberated from moral and ethical standards.

Yet it turns out that those things were precisely what held society together.

"Family values" have been so scorned that the west is left with neither families nor values.

What do they have? Rampant illegitimacy and sexual disease, widespread divorce, and a generation of unloved, undisciplined, and uncared-for kids.

Do we want such thing in India?

by Mr. Amartya Talukdar, kolkata

Email ID: amartya.talukdar@gmail.com 

First of thanks to Mr. neeraj agarwal to provide this information through RTI

Government of India ministry of issued a notification to all the states to act on this find the link as below.

 http://hridaya-nfh.org/noification_letters/MHAAdvisoryOn498aMisuse.pdf

CHENNAI: A 33-year-old woman lodged a complaint against her husband Raj Babu (59), who is the brother of Samajwadi MP and former Bollywood actor Jayaprada, alleging dowry harassment

08-06-2010, kolkata 

The Independent, UK By Sophie Goodchild, Home Affairs Correspondent Sunday, 12 November 2000

Bruised and battered husbands have been complaining for years and now the biggest research project of its kind has proved them right. When it comes to domestic confrontation, women are more violent than men.
The study, which challenges the long-standing view that women are overwhelmingly the victims of aggression, is based on an analysis of 34,000 men and women by a British academic. Women lash out more frequently than their husbands or boyfriends, concludes John Archer, professor of psychology at the

and president of the International Society for Research on Aggression.
Male violence remains a more serious phenomenon: men proved more likely than women to injure their partners. Female aggression tends to involve pushing, slapping and hurling objects.* Yet men made up nearly 40 per cent of the victims in the cases that he studied - a figure much higher than previously reported.

Professor Archer analysed data from 82 US and

studies on relationship violence, dating back to 1972. He also looked at 17 studies based on victim reports from 1,140 men and women. Speaking last night, he said that female aggression was greater in westernised women because they were "economically emancipated" and therefore not afraid of ending a relationship.

"Feminist writers say most of the acts against men are not important but the same people have used the same surveys to inflate the number of women who are attacked," he said. "In the past it would not even have been considered that women are violent. My view is that you must base social policy on the whole evidence."
His views are supported by Dr Malcolm George, a lecturer in neuroscience at

. In a paper to be published next year in the Journal of Men's Studies, Dr George will argue that men have been abused by their wives since Elizabethan times. He uses examples such as the actor John Wayne, beaten by his wife Conchita Martinez, and Humphrey Bogart battered by his wife Mayo Methot, as well as Abraham Lincoln whose wife Mary who broke his nose with a lump of wood.

His research is backed up by historical records which show that men who were beaten by their wives were publicly humiliated in a ceremony called a "skimmington procession". The procession was named after the ladle used to skim milk during cheese making.

Dr George has also unearthed a plaster frieze in Montacute House in

that depicts a wife hitting her husband over the head followed by a "skimmington" ceremony.

"It's a complex argument but we do get more women aggressing against male partners than men against female partners," said Dr George. "The view is that women are acting in self-defence but that is not true - 50 per cent of those who initiate aggression are women. This sends a dangerous message to men because we are saying they are not going to get any legal redress so their option instead is to hit back."
Terrie Moffitt, professor of social behaviour at the 

at King's College,

, admitted that women do engage in abusive behaviour and said the Home Office should fund research into the issue in the

. "If we ask does women's violence have consequences for their kids then the answer is 'yes'," she said. "There is also an elevated risk of children being victims of domestic violence if there is central violence between parents."

visakhapatnam

08-06-2010

In the days of yore small gifts like bicycle or a radio were enough, but today dowry constitute huge sums of money and an array of consumer goods.

Whereas the role of dowry seekers is highlighted, the role of dowry givers is often overlooked conveniently.

Dowry is paid by greedy parents of the bride as an enticement so that a groom who is wealthy, earning a handsome amount, holding a powerful post or settled abroad can be secured for their daughter. This will enable the bride to live a life of comfort and also get all the advantages offered by the social position of the groom.

The irony is that if the marriage works, then this is regarded as a gift given out of love (and no further discussion regarding this matter is entertained by the bride’s family). If the marriage fails, then it is treated as dowry.

Parents of prospective brides judge a man by his money rather than his character, moral upbringing etc. Since the groom is treated as another consumer good that can be purchased for one’s daughter, the families of brides have no moral standing to complain about dowry. It is just another malaise of a hedonist society.

In certain states often the groom is coerced to pay heavy amounts to the family of the bride, even at the cost of his own parents and siblings. The bride’s family often lives comfortably at the expense of the groom. This should also be looked as dowry harassment of the groom by the bride’s family.

Whereas the law provides for punishment of both dowry seekers and givers, feminist especially those at the helm of the National Woman’s Commission would like to reduce the punishment to dowry givers. Heavy penalty is imposed on dowry seekers but dowry givers are left scot-free.

In an egalitarian society all laws should be gender neutral including dowry laws. The problem of dowry stems from the current wind of consumerism and materialism that is sweeping our society and hence can only be treated through moral upliftment of society.

Draconian laws are only used by feminist to further their anti-male, anti-family, anti-God  agenda.

by -amartya talukdar, kolkata